All right, now look. One thing I want to be really clear about is with all of these skills that we're teaching in this course, one size doesn't fit all. There's no such thing as one size fits all. I've bought that dress, it did not fit. So it's going to be important for you to develop strategies that work for you. And to help you to start to generate some ideas about what all sorts of different gratitude practices might look like, I encourage you to watch the video collage that we've created. This is just a collage of quick little gratitude practices that many people on our training teams have developed for themselves to cultivate their attitude of gratitude. Just always choosing to put my attention back on what we have, not what we've lost. And thinking about my boys, that's as you say not easy, and it's hard work. I'm just going to swivel my screen round now, so you can see my poster in my kitchen here. >> Mm-hm >> So you can see my Accept the Good, poster which a dear friend Charlie gave me, before she went to visit her sister in law who has cancer and lives in South Africa. And she was leaving the country for 6 months, so she said, you've got more need of this poster right now than me. And so it's still sitting in our kitchen. And that really helps me. These visual queues have really helped me. So when I'm really wallowing and I'm going downwards, I'll come and stand in front of it, and think, accept the good, really listen, think about the things that are good in your life. And I have got lots of good. >> So one of the ways I practice gratitude is at work. We have a very large team of people who work together collaboratively on a lot of different projects. And so one of the ways I express my gratitude is by going out of my way to write an email to one of my team mates thanking them for the role they played in helping me to produce the work that I can feel proud of. When we don't get to see each other face to face, gratitude is really important part of our staying connected, and helping us work effectively as a team. >> We've been practicing gratitude for many years now, and it's been about five years ago since we started, Family blessings, three blessings every night. We call it the three blessings, and it's a special time where we all gather together in my son Finn's room. And we cuddle up and we share the special events of each day. And we do three each. And it's been really magical to see how much they have grown in the depth of their gratitude. It used to be macaroni and cheese or a special toy and now it's really become noticing the nuances of day and noticing maybe somebody gave them a pencil and they didn't even ask for one. And or somebody picked up a glove that they had dropped on the playground. So that's been really neat to see how much they've grown and how excited they also get about each blessing. And I'm also noticing if I forget or I'm too tired they really notice and they say mom we have to do the three blessings. So it's been really neat to see how much they've all grown, and just how much we all look forward to it each day. >> So one way that I practice gratitude is texting my mom every morning. She lives across the country from me. So it's very important for me that I keep in touch, and I usually either say, I love you or I send her a picture of something that I took during the day. And even though she's two hours behind and it's like four in the morning for her, she always texts me back. So, that's just a great way for me to start my day. >> One of the ways I practice gratitude is in my professional practice in the work that I do, and in the work I do training teachers around resilience I find there are so many opportunities to be grateful. One of the main ones is that I constantly learn, and it's an easy thing to say. And I'm sure lots of trainers do say it, but I always find, every single program I've ever run, I deepen my own understanding of myself, and of the resilient skills, and of the power they can have to help other people. So I'm very aware of that privilege, if you like, and I try and share that privilege with the group. So the two ways I do that, firstly, is if something comes up in the room, if somebody makes a comment or asks a question that has made me think differently, I will always make a point of drawing attentions to that fact. And thanking that person for that opportunity and I think that helps in two ways. One is it's just me being grateful, but it also it recognizes that I didn't know everything. And they're teaching me as much as I'm teaching them and it sets up a very nice kind of dynamic in the room. The other way I try and do it is always at the end of any program I will talk about the privilege I feel in the work I do and talk about some of the things that I've learned from them over the program. >> One of the ways that my family and I practice gratitude is something that we've been doing recently in the last couple of years is something that we call silver linings. Silver linings is a way for us to talk about the bad things in a way that we try too find some good things in the bad things that happens. So at the dinner table we'd talk about the highs and lows of the day, the ups and downs and when an adversity is shared. When something bad happens to one of the kids, or Mary and I. We'll talk about it at the table and at the end of the conversation we'll have a discussion together as a group about is there an upside? Is there a silver lining to the bad thing that happened? And it's not an easy conversation at first because it's an odd conversation. It's not a conversation that you typically have at dinner or really any time. But we have noticed over time that as a family we're able to talk about and brainstorm ideas and it's been really really nice. For example, Liam let us know that he made it on the basketball team that doesnt have any of his friends at all. And to a fifth grader that's obviously a big deal. Fifth graders want to be with their friends and he was disappointed about that and so we talked about his disappointment, but at the end of the conversation we talked as a family about a silver lining. Is there an upside to this challenge he has? And by the end we together came up with this idea that maybe it's an opportunity for him to get new friends and he had that in his mind when he went to the first practice. And he did meet so many friends at that first practice and I think that was a really nice thing for him and a really nice way for us to express gratitude as a family in a different way. >> So one of my favorite things to do is take walks in the historic neighborhoods of Philadelphia. We have some great national parks. And one of the ways that I practice gratitude is by taking pictures while I'm on my walks of the trees and the beautiful homes. So that when I'm not outside I can look back and just experience the emotion that I was experiencing when I was taking those walks. >> So there is a number of different ways that I remind myself to practice gratitude throughout the day. And one is that my husband Gabe and I travel a lot for work. And so when he's the one that's going away, I will on Post It notes, write a number of different ways in which I'm grateful for him. One of the things I write on the Post It note is he every morning says that he's so grateful for me greeting him with this big smile first thing in the morning when he says, "good morning gorgeous" to me, which I'm grateful for that he says that. And I put those notes in his suitcase so that while he's away he's reminded of the ways I'm grateful for him. He leaves me Post It notes of how he's grateful for me all throughout the house and I find them in the craziest places. One time I opened up the refrigerator and he had left me a box of that mint cookies, which are my favorite I must say, and in there was a Post It note saying I love the way that you smile when I give you an Attman's cookie. And so just these little things that it's so easy to walk by we're reminded of and over the course of our years together, I've alternated different Post It notes that he's given me and put them on the back door of the medicine cabinet. So that in the morning when I wake up first thing, I'm brushing my teeth and I'm looking at these Post It notes reminding me of this amazing man that I get to live my life with. And it gets me thinking about really having top of mind, as I walk through the business of my day. Notice those little moments of gratitude, and then at the end of the day, when I'm tired and I'm washing the makeup off my face, and getting ready for bed, I look at the Post It notes again. And I think of him, and I think of all the other little moments in the day that I could've very easily forgotten, but I'm reminded of. And it sends me off to bed definitely in the right frame of mind.
