Well I've worked with some people who kind of seem to get into
maybe what could be considered unhealthy relationships or
have kind of similar unhealthy patterns within their relationships,
could those be considered other risks or traps that people get into?
>> Yeah, I hate to being saying this, a lot of
people are actually disappointed in their relationships and
many people actually do not get what they need in the relationships.
Very often because they were following misguided scripts or
notions of where things are going.
So this is why in this course we want to be addressing some of those, right?
We talk about some traps associated with dominant social scripts.
But then individuals also carry their own expectations with regard to relationships.
One of the very commonly found problems is that,
because people do not think about what they really need,
they would just follow what most people would do.
One example is the sort of popular practice of certain standardized rituals,
which do not necessarily meet individual needs but
everyone would be following them.
One example I can immediately think of is how consumerism has
totally taken over our expression of love and affection.
Just imagine what people do on Valentine's Day.
It would be chocolates, flowers, fine dining, [LAUGH] or
if you're better resourced, then you might throw in a piece of jewelry maybe.
But then, it doesn't really requires creativity and
sensitivity to your partner's specific needs and circumstances.