Now, there are different ways to play with this interaction
between your conflict style, the other possible styles, and
the nature of this conflict with these considerations.
It's a lot to sort of hold in your mind.
So, you have now a couple of graphs that we can look at.
Different ways to chart out
the relationship between the styles and these four things to consider.
So, if you look at the first chart,
you'll see that we've laided out by high concern and low concern.
And this is trying to think about again how important is something,
how unimportant is it.
In two different arenas.
Up the top, if we think about that axis and
you can see it here as illustrating the issues themselves.
If the issues are really important, right?
Things are important here, then we are inclined to be more forceful about them.
We may well adopt a competitive style.
And in fact that style is helpful when the issues are that important, right?
We don't want to be passive or
accommodating about them if they are that important.
So, there is a relationship between the importance of the issues and
the style of competition or forcing, right?
My way, we also have up in a top of this graph when the issues are important
at tendency to went to work cooperatively or collaboratively on them, right?
So, at the top of this graph where the issues are high
two styles tend to predominate.
My way forcing style and our way collaboration.
Now, what's the difference between these two quadrants, right?
Well, that pertains to that X-axis, right?
Going horizontally, which is what's illustrated there?
If the relationship is of low concern Right?
It's a passing relationship.
It's not a long-term relationship.
Always hate to say that it's a relationship you don't care about or
person you don't care about.
That sounds harsh to me, but we do have interactions with
people that are deeply meaningful and we invest a lot of time and energy in.
And then we have other interactions that are more passing.
So, if the interactions are more passing,
their relationship is not as important as others.
Then, that's placing me on this with the forcing style,
right, or the assertion style, the advocating style.